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Match the Needs to the Comments

Needs:
Order
Connection
Respect
Focus
Reliability

Engagement
Boundaries
Inclusion
Trust
Open Communication

Aggressive/Violent Communication

COMMENT 1: It's amazing how some people think they can just talk over others like their opinions are the only ones that matter

COMMENT 2: You cancel on me all of the time!

COMMENT 3: I guess my ideas don't matter.

COMMENT 4: Wow, you really can't keep your hands to yourself can you?

COMMENT 5: Why do I always have to drag information out of you?

COMMENT 6: You're so lazy! How can anyone think in this mess?

COMMENT 7: You always say you'll do something, but then nothing ever happens

COMMENT 8: I swear, I can't even hear myself think!

COMMENT 9: It's like I'm talking to a wall

COMMENT 10: Why don't you ever respond? Are you ignoring me on purpose?

Match the Needs to the Comments

Needs:
Order
Connection
Respect
Focus
Reliability

Engagement
Boundaries
Inclusion
Trust
Open Communication

Non-Violent Communication

COMMENT 1: I feel sad when you avoid talking about difficult issues, because I need openness and honesty.

COMMENT 2: I felt upset when I saw you took my book without asking. Please ask before taking something of mine.

COMMENT 3: I feel concerned when you cancel plans without notice because I need reliability.

COMMENT 4: I felt hurt when you interrupted me during the meeting because I need to be respected.

COMMENT 5: I feel uneasy when you don't follow through on promises because I need consistency and trust

COMMENT 6: I noticed you didn't answer my text. I'm feeling anxious because our connection is important to me.

COMMENT 7: When you leave your clothes on the floor, I feel frustrated because I need cleanliness and organization in this space.

COMMENT 8: I feel overwhelmed when there's noise while I'm working because I need quiet to focus

COMMENT 9: I noticed you're not engaging in the conversation, and I feel disconnected because I need mutual participation

COMMENT 10: When you make decisions without me, I feel excluded because I need to be involved in decisions that affect me.

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