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Aggressive/Violent Communication

COMMENT 1: It's amazing how some people think they can just talk over others like their opinions are the only ones that matter
NEED: Respect

COMMENT 2: You cancel on me all of the time!
NEED: Reliability

COMMENT 3: I guess my ideas don't matter.
NEED: Inclusion

COMMENT 4: Wow, you really can't keep your hands to yourself can you?
NEED: Boundaries

COMMENT 5: Why do I always have to drag information out of you?
NEED: Open Communication

COMMENT 6: You're so lazy! How can anyone think in this mess?
NEED: Order

COMMENT 7: You always say you'll do something, but then nothing ever happens
NEED: Trust

COMMENT 8: I swear, I can't even hear myself think!
NEED: Focus

COMMENT 9: It's like I'm talking to a wall
NEED: Engagement

COMMENT 10: Why don't you ever respond? Are you ignoring me on purpose?
NEED: Connection

Non-Violent Communication

COMMENT 1: I feel sad when you avoid talking about difficult issues, because I need openness and honesty.
NEED: Open Communication

COMMENT 2: I felt upset when I saw you took my book without asking. Please ask before taking something of mine.
NEED: Boundaries

COMMENT 3: I feel concerned when you cancel plans without notice because I need reliability.
NEED: Reliability

COMMENT 4: I felt hurt when you interrupted me during the meeting because I need to be respected.
NEED: Respect

COMMENT 5: I feel uneasy when you don't follow through on promises because I need consistency and trust
NEED: Trust

COMMENT 6: I noticed you didn't answer my text. I'm feeling anxious because our connection is important to me.
NEED: Connection

COMMENT 7: When you leave your clothes on the floor, I feel frustrated because I need cleanliness and organization in this space.
NEED: Order

COMMENT 8: I feel overwhelmed when there's noise while I'm working because I need quiet to focus
NEED: Focus

COMMENT 9: I noticed you're not engaging in the conversation, and I feel disconnected because I need mutual participation
NEED: Engagement

COMMENT 10: When you make decisions without me, I feel excluded because I need to be involved in decisions that affect me.
NEED: Inclusion

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